Sadie's Bed

So check out Sadie's Open Marriage blog if you don't read already.  HE sent me the link for today's post and says HE likes.  I liked it too but I think for different reasons. 

HE never really says why HE likes or dislikes links HE sends to me.  HE says HE forwards because there's something HE wants to share with me.  Fair enough.  But I have to sometimes guess why HE likes or dislikes things.  It's not simple for me.  I don't just appreciate.  (Yes, I do know that can be exhausting and a flaw on certain levels, but it's who I am.  I'm a dissector!)

Back to Sadie...she expresses how much she and her hubby love their bed and discusses all that goes on in it.  She talks about how it was supposed to mean one thing but due to their lifestyle, it didn't mean that one thing and that it's pretty much ok because they still love their bed.  (I'm completely summarizing because you really should just go to her blog and read for yourself.)

Thinking about us, then....well yea!  I'd love "our" bed too, if we had a bed together.  We don't live together so we have his bed (a little too soft) and my bed (much too hard but excellent if you're a stomach sleeper like me) (Oh, and it's excellent for having sex cuz it doesn't give so you can feel everything!)

Second point, yea, I'd love our bed too if we weren't in this phase of our grand love affair where HE's having the affair and I'm the one in love.  (Yes, HE's in love too, with me, but it sounded more poetic to describe us that way.)  Betrayal and deception and all of that are not quite out of our way yet, which is a reason why Sadie thinks that beds are "sacred".  And we have not stated we will have an open relationship.  Baby steps I'm guessing.

After allowing the blog entry to swirl around my taste buds for a bit, and thinking of our situation and guessing why HE might really like it, I had a few thoughts:

1.  Sadie doesn't have to wonder if she'll ever marry or live with her primary.  She's all set.
2.  Sadie and her hubby are completely open and honest about how they choose to live their lives and they have settled on acceptable "rules", together.  The struggle, if there once was one, is all in the past.
3.  Sadie is confident in her position in her hubby's life.  She doesn't have to wonder if he is out wooing others and hiding details from her.  She is privy to his meanderings.

Maybe HE is confident in our relationship in a way that I am not at this point.  I know that I love being in bed with him, no matter whose it is.  I'm not so sure about allowing others into mine.  HE claims no one has been allowed to enter his... so for now, I have to believe that his bed, and my bed, are sacred.  I love them both but only because I get to share them with him.