It's absolutely crazy to me how quickly my emotions can change within the relationship. One minute I want to run away as fast as possible never looking back on the last decade and the next I want nothing more than to be entangled and naked with him even if I am feeling insecure and scared and desperate.
Maybe it's where I am in my life or maybe it's the relationship or a delicate combination of both, but it's the ebb and flow that I must learn to accept. It can't be all happy all the time. And it certainly can't be negative more than it is positive.
A friend emailed me the following quote on a day when I most needed to hear something, well, positive. It spoke to me. It reminded me to accept the tides of my relationship a little more openly and to let go the times when maybe it's not so perfect. Ebb and flow, like the ocean tides and the phases of the moon, it all comes back around eventually.
Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: Something is important here;
otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I
want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want. . . . In the
moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will
stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive
attraction will begin. And in that moment, your feeling will change from not feeling
good to feeling good. That is the Process of Pivoting.
--- Abraham
Yes, it actually works.
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